The Sufi poet Hafiz, writing over 600 years ago, opens one of his poems by asserting: "Everyone you see, you say to them, 'Love me.'" You don't say it aloud, of course, but it's there, just beneath the surface, revealed by your eyes, your dress, your speech, your demeanor, your words (whatever they are).
It may be nuanced: "Love me, I dare you" (the bullying approach). "Love me, I'm weak and helpless" (the victim approach). "Love me, oh, please, oh please" (the desperate approach). "Love me, if you want...whatever" (the casual, pretend-not-to-care approach). But we all say it--all of us--because we have the same need, to be approved of, accepted, endorsed, validated, recognized.
So here is this poet, writing not only across the gulf of time, but equally the gulf of culture (he's an Islamic mystic), pinpointing a deep truth as true then as now, as core to the reality of being human as anything said before or since. He knew this. I know this. You know this. Whether you intend it or not, you say to each person you meet: Love me. It's what you want, really, no matter how you disguise it.
Hafiz completes his poem by wondering what would happen if, in every interaction, you were the one to assure the other: "Yes, I do love you."
(Hafiz's poem is titled "With That Moon Language" and is translated by Daniel Ladinsky, from the book The Gift.)
Text and image © 2011 by Dirk deVries. All rights reserved.
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